
Etiquette has always been a social survival tool, but some old-school rules were more about controlling people than promoting kindness. From posture police to bizarre dinner rituals, society once thrived on rules that would make most of us laugh or cringe today.
Back then, not following the rules meant scandal, social shame, or being labeled “uncivilized.” Now? Some of those same rules feel outdated, oppressive, or downright weird. Thank goodness times have changed.
So let’s dust off the history books and take a look at eight etiquette rules from the past that definitely wouldn’t fly in 2025. You might even be glad your elbows are on the table right now.
1. No Laughing With Your Mouth Open

In the Victorian era, laughter was seen as something that needed to be… contained. Laughing loudly, especially with your mouth open, was considered vulgar and undignified, particularly for women. Heaven forbid you snort.
Women were expected to chuckle modestly behind a gloved hand or fan, keeping everything as “ladylike” as possible. Think more polite giggle, less ugly laugh.
These days, unfiltered laughter is practically a love language. If someone’s laugh can fill a room, it’s usually a sign they’re the life of the party. Thankfully, we’ve ditched the guilt over having a good time.
2. Calling Cards or Get Ghosted

In the 18th and 19th centuries, paying a visit wasn’t as simple as texting “you home?” First, you had to send a calling card, your name on a fancy little slip of paper, to announce your arrival.
If the host wasn’t available, a servant would collect your card and possibly schedule a future visit. If they never got back to you? That was Victorian ghosting. Brutal, but with calligraphy.
Today, casual drop-ins are rare, and digital invites rule. Can you imagine scheduling your coffee run like a diplomatic summit? We’ll take a group chat over engraved cardstock any day.
3. Don’t Cross Your Legs, Ladies

There was a time when crossing your legs, at the knees, specifically, was considered improper for women. It supposedly “invited attention” and revealed “too much ankle.” Yes, ankle. Scandalous stuff.
Ladies were taught to sit straight, knees together, and tilt their legs to the side, like a living statue of modesty. Comfort and circulation? Not a priority.
Thankfully, today’s etiquette leans more on comfort and less on control. Crossed legs, power poses, lounging on the couch, it’s your seat, your rules. Just don’t forget to stand up every now and then.
4. Glove Etiquette Was a Whole Thing

Once upon a time, gloves weren’t just a fashion accessory, they were a full-on social protocol. You needed different gloves for day, evening, dinner, walking, and even church. Forgetting the right pair? A potential social disaster.
Removing your gloves at the wrong time (like before being formally introduced) was considered bad manners. And shaking hands without gloves? That was almost scandalous.
Nowadays, gloves are mostly reserved for winter or fashion flair. No one’s checking if your satin pair matches your intentions. The only gloves we care about now are touchscreen-compatible.
5. Fork in the Right Hand, Please

In formal 19th-century dining, etiquette dictated strict rules about cutlery. Forks had to be held in the left hand, knives in the right, and heaven help you if you switched. Americans even developed a style called the “zigzag method.”
This wasn’t just about eating neatly. It was about class, control, and making sure you weren’t mistaken for the help. Your table manners literally signaled your social rank.
Now? You can eat sushi with your hands or stab a salad with a plastic fork. Unless you’re at a royal banquet, nobody’s policing your grip on dinner.
6. A Lady Never Ate In Public Alone

In many past cultures, children and women were expected to be seen, not heard. Speaking out of turn, especially in mixed company—was considered rude or disrespectful.
Even adult women were often discouraged from contributing to intellectual conversations. Silence was mistaken for refinement. How quaint.Thankfully, modern etiquette values confidence, voice, and contribution. Encouraging everyone at the table to speak isn’t just polite, it’s essential. Good manners today include making space for others, not silencing them.
7. Don’t Speak Unless Spoken To

In many past cultures, children and women were expected to be seen, not heard. Speaking out of turn, especially in mixed company—was considered rude or disrespectful.
Even adult women were often discouraged from contributing to intellectual conversations. Silence was mistaken for refinement. How quaint.Thankfully, modern etiquette values confidence, voice, and contribution. Encouraging everyone at the table to speak isn’t just polite—it’s essential. Good manners today include making space for others, not silencing them.
8. Hats On, Hats Off Rules

Hat etiquette used to come with a user manual. Men had to remove hats indoors, at the dinner table, in elevators, and especially when greeting a lady. Women, on the other hand, had their own rules depending on the type of hat and the event.
Wearing the wrong hat or forgetting to remove it could be interpreted as a snub or sign of disrespect. The social pressure was real.
Today, hat rules are largely about style, not statements. A beanie in a café or a baseball cap indoors barely raises an eyebrow. The only rule now? Rock it with confidence.
Times Change, Thankfully

Looking back, it’s clear that many etiquette rules were less about manners and more about control, especially for women. While some old-school traditions were charming, others feel downright stifling now.
Today’s etiquette is more about kindness, empathy, and adaptability. We open doors for anyone, laugh out loud, and wear whatever gloves we want, or none at all. And no one’s fainting over a crossed ankle.
So next time you sip your coffee alone or laugh with your mouth wide open, take a moment to celebrate just how far we’ve come. Progress never looked so polite.
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